Wednesday, February 12, 2014


We read in Ephesians 6:12: "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." One of the tactics that Satan has used from the very beginning to exercise control and dominion is to attempt to break the bonds of marriage between the husband and the wife. In the garden, Adam and Eve were both tempted by Satan. Once Eve was alone, away from Adam, Satan was able to beguile her. I have wondered if Adam and Eve were together when Satan tempted them that he would not have been successful. Instead of partaking of the fruit when tempted, they could have counseled with each other and waited for further instruction promised by the Lord. When the husband and wife are connected together with God and seek guidance from Him, then Satan is more likely to not have power over them.
Currently we are in a war. We are wrestling against the rulers of the darkness of this world and against spiritual wickedness in high places. Below is a 2 minute trailer of a movie documentary that will be coming out this Spring. The movie is called "Irreplaceable". I  look forward to seeing it.


Marriage has been a hot topic lately on whether it is a right or privilege. In the 1828 dictionary, Marriage is defined as "The act of uniting a man and woman for life" or the "union of one man and one woman"  Ultimately, this union is meant to be fruitful and result in children. Our society is now trying to redefine the word marriage.  .

Here are a few thoughts on marriage and some advice that I wanted to share that I have heard. I thought since it is Valentines Day on Friday that this would be a good time to post this.

Marriage demands commitment, passion, humility, love, and respect. These traits are most evident in a person who has an intimate relationship with God. Communication in marriage is one of the main problems that can plague relationships. Communication is the foundation of every good relationship, especially marriage. In Colossians 4:6, the apostle Paul exhorts us, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” Too often this exhortation is ignored in marriage relationships and a lot of hurtful things get said. Proverbs 10:19 says, “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.”

If emotions are overheating, give one another permission to take a timeout to cool off. Studies show that marriages that fight dirty with a lot of hurtful speech will erode over time and chip away at the relationship until there is nothing left. James tells us that though the tongue is a small member; it can kindle a great fire, and has in it the power of life and death. "Choose today, to tame your tongue, as a soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Prov 15:1). Determine to replace the harsh tongues in your marriage with words of graciousness that will bring life rather than death blows.

Forgiveness is foundational to every healthy relationship. We are an imperfect people and we hurt each other and let one another down regularly. Learning to forgive each other is crucial for preserving loving relationships. It's been said that these nine words can save your relationship, "I was wrong, I am sorry, please forgive me." Use them often as they have great power in maintaining closeness in relationships. Forgive early, don't allow a lot of time to go by, often the greater the time lapse the greater the damage done to the relationships. Jesus sets the bar in forgiveness, we are to forgive others as God has forgiven us and no we don’t deserve it. Jesus said, "if you do not forgive, neither will your father in heaven forgive you" (Matt 11:26). Choose to be one who forgives quickly and often, allowing God’s grace to prevail in your relationships!

The first step in re falling in love is to start paying attention again. Do you remember how much attention you paid your mate before they were married to you? The quickest way for you to put spark back into your marriage is for you to start affirming and appreciating and admiring again the strength of your spouse instead of focusing on their weaknesses. You know how affectionate you were during your courting days; it needs to be a part of your marriage each day. You had adventure when you were having romance. You've lost the adventure. Everything is predictable. Predictability kills in a marriage. All work and no play makes a dull marriage. The family that plays together stays together. Revelation 2:4-5 "You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen? Repent and do the things you did at first."


Sidenote: To the men out there.. a reminder that this Friday, February 14th, is Valentine's Day. Some of you probably know that St. Valentine's Day began as a liturgical celebration of a Christian saint named Valentinus. There are many legends about Saint Valentine. One of the more popular legends of Saint Valentine of Rome states that he was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians. The Roman Emperor Claudius II supposedly forbade his soldiers to marry in order to grow his army, believing that married men did not make for good soldiers. According to legend, in order "to remind these men of their vows and God’s love, Saint Valentine is said to have cut hearts from parchment", giving them to these soldiers and persecuted Christians, a possible origin of the widespread use of hearts on St. Valentine's Day. (Frank Staff, The Valentine & Its Origins, 1969, Frederick A. Praeger)


Anonymous said...

It's interesting that Webster understood that marriage was for life and not something that could be ended, broken or divorced from.

Christ also taught that marriage was for life and that it was impossible to dissolve a marriage, even by divorce, which was invented by the Adversary and has no effect on the marriage in God's eyes, the couple is still married and thus commits adultery if either date or remarry someone else while their original spouse is still alive.

Yet, unfortunately most everyone today does not follow Christ's laws, they do not want to have to have true unconditional love for unrighteous spouses and live Christ's law, it's too hard, thus they fall for the world's system of divorce and remarriage as if it's legitimate with God, and/or they support the divorces and remarriages of their friends and family instead of standing for what's right.

Even most churches today, especially the LDS Church, support the abandonment of spouse and family and adultery by divorce and remarriage. It is almost unheard of for Christ's true teachings of marriage to be taught or believed or stood for by any Church, though a few still do.

Christ taught that only those who have true everlasting unconditional love for their 1st spouse will achieve eternal life.

And Joseph Smith even taught that all 1st marriages and families of the earth are eternal, thus there is no need for the idea of sealings, endowments, etc. that Brigham Young invented to try to validate his whoredoms of polygamy after Joseph died.

Joseph understood the eternal nature of marriage and that it could not be broken. He also taught that polygamy was an evil that was contrary to Christ's laws. And contrary to popular belief he never preached or practiced polygamy, but constantly fought against it, warning the Saints to not fall for anyone, even a prophet, who might come preaching or practicing it or they would lose their salvation.

Yet most people, especially in the Church, do not search Christ's and Joseph's teachings on the marriage, divorce or polygamy, and thus easily fall for the many falsehoods and false prophets in the LDS Church today that lead them astray by teaching them false doctrines that are completely contrary to Christ.

And I agree with you that we can fall back in love with our spouse, or stay in love, by daily serving their needs and wishes above our own. We will come to love who we serve, even if they don't deserve it or reciprocate it.

But someday all unrighteous or unfaithful spouses (who have gone off in other relationships or marriages) will have to return, repent and become loving and faithful to their original spouse again, either in this life or the next, and then the original couple will continue married forever, in whatever level of Kingdom they merited, for not all couples, probably very few, will become Gods. But all 1st couples and families will be eternal after they have paid for and repented from their earthly sins and unfaithfulness, in this life or the next.

Anonymous said...

Is there a scripture to back up your assertion in the last paragraph of what you've said? Can I cut my wife loose now since she was married previously to a complete moron? I'm glad to know that any efforts I make with her in this life are entirely useless...

Anonymous said...

well-done; well-written, 'bare record'--

Clark said...

Where does it say that Satan tempted Adam and Eve? It was Lucifer that did that. After Lucifer was cast out, Satan followed them around until he was cast out by Peter.

aredesuyo said...

Are you all familiar with Godwin's Law? It states that "as an online discussion grows longer, the probability of a comparison involving Nazis or Hitler approaches 1."

I'm going to propose another version: As a Mormon-themed blog becomes more widely read, the probability that the above "Anonymous" poster will submit a long comment on the subject of divorce and remarriage approaches 1.